Picture this, you’ve set the date and you are planning your wedding. After much deliberation, you and your fiance have come to an agreement to not have kids attend your wedding. The only problem? How to tell your family and friends that little Timmy isn’t invited without upsetting them?
Don’t worry, you are not alone! Nowadays, with the rising costs of well everything, many people are choosing to forgo having kids at their weddings and reception. And it’s ok! It’s your wedding and if you don’t think you will enjoy it with the added stress of kids running around and potentially crying during the ceremony, it’s your personal choice.
So if you want to party without screaming toddlers, don’t fret because we have some really nice ways to tell people they need to get a sitter for the night and that you’re having a kid-free wedding.
Approach 1: Reserving Attendees
On the RSVP card write, “2 spaces have been reserved in your honor” and “___ of 2 will attend.”
With this approach, you address the invitations to the names of the people who are invited. Inside it reads the amount of space reserved so they can confirm there is no room for anyone else, including children, to come.
Approach 2: Adults Only
“We are very sorry, but we are keeping our wedding day as an adult-only occasion. We will not be able to invite children, but we hope that you will still be able to attend”
With this approach, you blatantly say that you are having an adult-only event. You can put it on the invite, the RSVP, or on your wedding website. Wherever you put it, make sure it’s a place people will see it.
Approach 3: Thank You For Understanding
“While we love your kids, this is an adults-only event. Thank you for understanding!”
With this you are leading with a thank you to set the tone and to enable them to accept the fact that kids aren’t invited.
Approach 4: Straight To The Point
“We’re having a child-free wedding.”
No apologies or explanations, of all the approaches this is the most blatant and to the point.
Be Comfortable in Your Decision and Wording
Choose wording that makes you comfortable and is reflective of you as a couple. You should never have anything on your invitation that makes you feel uncomfortable. We hope that you found some inspiration with these different approaches and we hope you find verbiage that is right for you and your kid-free wedding.