One of the most pivotal moments in any woman’s life is getting married and once the engagement happens it is easy to get wrapped up in the wedding planning process. Yet there are a few things I believe every girl should experience before her wedding day in order to be fully prepared for being a married women.
Climb Your Mountain
In order to climb your mountain, you first have to find it. Do something that has always interested you but scared you. Something that you have always wanted to do but is hard and makes you work at accomplishing it. Something that pushes your boundaries and gets you outside of your comfort zone. You can learn a lot about yourself while you’re climbing the Matterhorn, running the New York City Marathon or singing karaoke at The World’s Famous Cats Meow.
Find Your Home
Home is a state of mind not a destination. It doesn’t have to be the town or the street you grew up on. When you have home in your heart it doesn’t matter how far you travel because it will always be with you. So find home for yourself. The person you share your life with should feel like this to you because at the end of the day, it’s just the two of you. And make sure to set up your network of friends, family, neighbors and other people you can rely on when life gets hard, this is where you will find the extra security you need, you will be home!
You never realize what you have until it’s gone. So take this time in your life to be selfish. Finish your degree, work on your artwork, record an album, write a book, or make every recipe in the new cookbook you just purchased. Never again will you have this kind of freedom in your entire life. The only responsibility you have is to yourself. So take advantage of the time and energy you have to have those selfish experiences and make incredible memories and never have to regret not investing in yourself.
Before you get into any relationship make sure you firmly know what you want out of life and who you are. When you get married it’s easy to lose yourself as you morph into a couple. You don’t want to wait 5 years and realize everything you have is something you never wanted! So take the time to truly identify what you want out of life and who you are and where you want to go. Knowing this will also ensure you and your partner have common goals and interests and can ensure you grow together over the years and not apart.
Just because there is practically a process for everything doesn’t mean you have to follow suit. Organize your life according to your needs. Just because it’s not a common way of doing things doesn’t mean it isn’t right for you. Don’t try to stick with the status quo, do what makes you happy so you can live a fulfilling life for yourself.
Relationships are a roller coaster, you are going to have highs, lows and in betweens. But fully knowing who you are can help you remain confident and help alleviate some of the hard times that can be in the future.